We laughed. We cried. And we undoubtedly discovered.
At our February No one Cares Speaker Occasion, visitor writer and psychologist Dr. Jody Carrington, PhD left us with a pocket book stuffed with knowledge—and possibly even a number of new views on life. From human connection and burnout to the Mufasa soundtrack (extra on that in a second) and neurobiology, the night time was filled with insights that we simply can’t hold to ourselves.
Jody was stuffed with one-liners, and each phrase felt like a revelation. Listed here are a few of our favourite moments from the night time. Get able to screenshot all of them.
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“Empathy is the antidote to burnout”
Jody repeated this one all through the night, and for good motive. In her expertise working with kids who’ve suffered trauma, she usually hears individuals ask, “What’s improper with this one?” As an alternative, she challenges us to ask, “What occurred to this one?” That shift in perspective—main with empathy—can change all the things.
Burnout, she stated, isn’t nearly being overworked. It’s about being unseen. “You can not do good work if you don’t really feel acknowledged.” And acknowledgement? That begins with empathy.
That is the place Mufasa is available in. His consideration to Sarabi’s pursuits makes her really feel seen and finally wins her over. The soundtrack then, in fact, needed to be mentioned. I liked it, Erika didn’t.
“If the massive individuals are okay, the little individuals are too”
Whether or not within the house, the workplace, or the classroom, management issues. When these in cost can regulate large feelings, the individuals they lead really feel safer, too.
Jody usually meets mother and father who’re frightened about their youngster’s anxiousness or despair. Her first step: Have the mother and father schedule an appointment for themselves. “Am I the issue?” they ask. And whereas Jody reassures them with a “Noooo,” she additionally nods. As a result of whereas they might be part of the issue, they’re additionally an enormous a part of the answer
“In the event that they’re not okay, the individuals they serve don’t stand an opportunity,” she stated.
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“The physique retains rating”
Your thoughts could attempt to persuade you that you simply’ve moved previous stress and trauma, however your physique tells the actual story. Jody reminds us that self-care (massages, meditation, journaling) gained’t really work in case your physique continues to be caught in fight-or-flight mode. Therapeutic isn’t nearly what you do; it’s about how your physique responds.
“You’ll be able to’t deal with what you don’t acknowledge”
When requested the best way to create a greater office tradition, Jody didn’t hesitate: Begin with acknowledgment.
Earlier than you’ll be able to repair an issue, it’s a must to identify it. She calls it the “Identify it to tame it” strategy. When you determine what’s taking place, solely then are you able to begin creating actual change.
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“We’re all simply right here to stroll one another house”
This one isn’t initially Jody’s—it belongs to religious trainer Ram Dass—so she broke it down and stated in her personal phrases that life isn’t meant to be navigated alone. We’re wired for connection, and no quantity of automation will ever exchange human relationships. We’d like one another. Even when we solely cross paths for a short while, we’re all right here to information, help, and carry one another up.
“What you promote, you allow”
A easy however highly effective reminder: What we enable in our areas, at work, at house, in our communities, units the tone for what continues. If we wish change, we have now to be intentional about what we encourage and what we problem.
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“You’ll be able to’t inform them, it’s a must to present them”
No quantity of phrases can persuade individuals of one thing they don’t see in motion. In management, tradition, connection, it’s not about what you say. It’s about what you do.
Which considered one of Jody’s insights resonated with you essentially the most? Let’s hold the dialog going.
